This post is for Parents and Seniors in High School or College wondering what is the deal with Senioritis?

What is Senioritis?

Let’s start with a metaphor. Imagine that school is a race and graduation is the finish line. Senioritis happens when you are close to the end, but feel like you can hardly go on. There are a surprising amount of mixed feelings. Reaching the finish line feels both right in front of you and just out of reach. You are both excited and scared. Sometimes there is both anticipation and dread, which can be really unexpected. With our marathon metaphor there is relief at the finish line. But we part with the race metaphor at the end because with school, there is a real life fear of what comes next. Many describe this phase as feeling surreal, since they have worked for so long towards something that they thought would feel different. Only to find that they are the same person, just more tired. Burned out.

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Many of my clients identify feeling guilty. Guilty for not caring more about their assignments and grades. Once we dig a little deeper we often find that guilt is a small part of many other feelings. All of these feelings can tie up your brain with distractions which keep you from studying and getting things done. Senioritis as a whole can be a sneaky distraction from acknowledging all the things you are feeling about this phase of your life.

Does Senioritis Matter?

On one hand, it doesn’t matter. Because the end is coming, ready or not! But yes, I think acknowledging the feelings of each individual person does matter. If we deny our feelings about an experience we just postpone having to feel them. While the experience of senioritis is so universal it is almost predictable, that doesn’t mean it is any less uncomfortable for each senior. So declaring that you feel this way may actually be helpful.

The hallmark of Senioritis is procrastination. There are a lot of distractions, most of them a great deal more fun than just doing the same old work as always. Procrastination can be really tough, but choosing one thing to do at a time and breaking down obligations into smaller steps can help. It is also good practice for when you experience procrastination again in adulthood. Procrastination also causes a lot of conflict with parents and other authority figures. Which creates resentment and can lead to more procrastination. What a mess!

Maybe you don’t want to be like everyone else and they are talking about senioritis. The desire to avoid being a cliche is common during Senior Year. You don’t have to declare “Yes, I too have Senioritis!”. As long as you acknowledge the challenges you are having somehow. Maybe you only confide in one person. Maybe you can only trust a counselor. You don’t have to call it “Senioritis”. It isn’t necessary to embrace the label as long as you address what you are going through. It is better than trying to push forward, pretending you aren’t on the cusp of a major life transition.

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What Can Be Done about Senioritis?

One of the first things I discuss with clients in my anxiety therapy work is the pressure they feel to “finish strong”. While the idea of a strong finish sounds great, I believe it is a myth. The goal is to finish. Finishing strong feels (to almost everyone) like unbearable pressure. Please know – no one is finishing strong. Even if it looks like it on the outside, internally your classmates are not feeling confident and competent. Most people are limping over the finish line of graduation. As I mentioned before, your last semester of school is full of a lot of surprising, sometimes conflicting feelings. Acknowledge that it is a weird time. Many students feel that it is implied that since they have been working towards graduation for years that the only acceptable feeling is elation. And the only acceptable speed is full steam ahead. But remember, you are nearing the end of a marathon. You are probably depleted. And it makes sense that you are exhausted and slowing down because You. Are. Tired.

It can help to take a few minutes every day to acknowledge how you feel. Talk to someone you trust about it or type it all out in a journal. Maybe one moment you can’t wait to get out of there. You are so close to it you can almost feel the freedom. But you are also going to miss your friends. The late nights, the funny selfies, the times you laughed until you cried. These will be sad things to leave behind. And grieving is appropriate when we are sad. You don’t have to wait until the cap toss to feel the sadness. Go ahead and have a good cry earlier if it makes sense for you. It can be a nice release.

Another common experience my clients talk about is worry that you are going to screw it all up right at the end. Maybe that will happen to you. Maybe not. You won’t be the first person in the world. Nor the last. Once you give up the vision of the strong finish you can fall into a comfortable speed. Maybe it is slower. But you are still moving forward. From this position you will see that you will finish. It may not look as magical or powerful as you hoped, but a clumsy move forward is still a move forward.

It is okay if your thoughts are going to some negative places. Maybe your fears are big and all over the place. Your job is to gently gather them all back in and tell yourself it is going to be okay. Even if bad things happen. Trying to predict them doesn’t scare them away. So focus on things you enjoy. Connect with your friends. Make time to study. Look around and take in your surroundings between classes. You made it this far. You are doing okay.

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A word of advice for those that are seeing a counselor already…don’t stop. I have had many clients in the past abruptly stop their sessions with me around the time of graduation. And they often end up coming back. When we dig into what was happening at the time, they say they assumed that they were done with counseling. They hoped that suddenly their mental health would be in a vastly different state. Maybe it is true that your environment is vastly different. But inside, your emotions are likely the same. And your coping skills are the same. And right around and after graduation is when they need support the most.

If you aren’t currently in therapy, this can actually be a great time to start. Having a weekly appointment with someone to process your thoughts with during a transition can feel much more stable than trying to navigate it alone. A professional can help. Contact me today and we will get started.

A Note for Parents

If you are finding that this semester has had more conflict and tension than you would like, reach out to me. Although I only provide counseling to students that are located in Tennessee, I am able to offer parent sessions to anyone in the U.S. You may find it helpful to have a few sessions to express your concerns and hear from an experienced Anxiety Therapist. You can see some of my thoughts on parents of young adults here. Whether I meet with you or your student, we can make this time of transition a smoother one for all involved. Visit my website to schedule a consultation.


About the Author

Jody works with adults looking to address their anxiety by accessing a highly trained therapist via online therapy in Tennessee.

Jody is a therapist just outside Nashville, Tennessee serving anyone within the state looking to find better ways to cope with their anxiety. In addition to her work as an anxiety therapist, parents from anywhere in the U.S. can meet with her to see how they can best support their loved one. She is also trained to provide Brainspotting Therapy for those looking to get unstuck and feel better quickly.

“I just want them to be okay”


I often get contacted by parents who are seeking a therapist for their child. The kid is usually 18 or 20. They are struggling with transitions and stress. The parents are concerned that they have sent this fresh new adult into the world with excitement and have realized they are not coping well. They have offered every comment and supportive Mom thought they could. They share with me the crying phone calls and the worrisome text messages they get. How they spend their work day being distracted by their own worries about their kid. They thought they had reached the finish line of parenting but launching out into the world is turning out to be a lot of work that they weren’t prepared for.

Do you want to know what I tell them? Do you want to know how it all works out for these other families? Many parents find my site because that is exactly what they are looking for. Hope. And a plan.

As a mental health therapist for college students for over a decade now, I have had a unique front row seat to the inner lives of the 20-something set. The counseling office is where they, over time, begin to put their defenses aside and open up. Sometimes they say things that they have never told anyone before. From my seat, this is a wonderful thing. Sometimes they surprise themselves at how open they become. They joke that their morning coffee must have a dash of truth serum.

Would you like to know what they say? Or better yet, what they wish YOU would do for them?

I’ll tell you. But first let’s review what else might be going on:

Growth: The brain development of 18-25 year olds is much more rapid than meets the eye. They are choosing or being pushed into new life skills whether they are ready or not. Some of these changes produce logical fears and worry for them. Sometimes they are pushed into things without a discussion of a Plan B. Their parents aren’t to blame – everyone gets it figured out, right? My point is this: this person you have raised will not be the same in May as they were the previous August. Sure they will still be the kid you know and love. But they will have grown. And since every family works like a system, that means the family unit will be stretched to grow a little as well. Maybe they bring around new friends to sit at your dinner table. But maybe you also have to tolerate new opinions and worry as they decide if their values are going to continue to match yours. At the moment, this can feel like a lot. Growing can be fun AND scary.

The Changing World: Your child is experiencing social dynamics that did not exist when you were their age. Jobs that you and your parents trained for are disappearing, and being replaced with career options that didn’t exist before. Life looks different so the move into adulthood may be different too. This hits some families harder than others.

I will delay no longer. Here is what your kids need:

  1. They need you to take care of YOUR mental health.

Are you a worry wart? A proud helicopter mom? Has your child pointed out that you can be pessimistic? Have you seen a counselor in the last year? Why not?

Look, no one wants anything to be wrong with them. And maybe nothing is wrong. But why not check it out? Proactive counseling for yourself is truly a beautiful thing. Maybe it is unnecessary (spoiler: it isn’t). Trust me, there is ALWAYS something we can be working on. Many times people feel relief from just making that first appointment. And maybe the first few times you have a therapy session you don’t feel like it is very productive. But if you stick with it, identify some goals, and develop a relationship with a counselor, you will be surprised at how good you can feel. Counseling is an investment of time, money, and letting people in. Do you want your child to hesitate to get themselves help when they need it? You are modeling healthy behavior when you show your family that you are willing to address your own needs.

  1. They need you to get clear on your relationship with LABELS. 

Most of the clients I work with have had some kind of mental health thing happen in their childhood. Maybe it was biting their nails, maybe it was hopelessness about friend drama, or maybe it was even some suicidal thoughts. Worried they might make a mountain out of molehill, parents often downplay these events in their kids’ lives. Their intentions were good, but now their child is remembering some hard stuff and doesn’t know why.  I have found in my years of working with young adults that this is an ideal time to reflect and figure out what actually happened. Making sense of their past is always helpful, and sometimes it comes with labels. My clients say things like:


“Now that I think about it, I was pretty anxious”
“I think I was a depressed kid”


If you have been avoidant of embracing the names of mental health challenges, fear not. Do my clients make these statements with a flood of negativity and rage at their parents? No. They feel relieved to give their pain a name. It gives them a plan and hope. If naming something is scary- that is your concern. Not theirs. I promise you that allowing your child to label their childhood and their mental health accurately is freeing to them.

  1. They need you to keep parenting them, just DIFFERENTLY.

Over the years, I have seen parents choose every version of parenting their young adult kids. Some families use the sink or swim approach. Parents wave as their 18 year olds drive away and say “See you at Thanksgiving!”. They believe in the power of making your own mistakes. And secretly, they can’t help but feel relieved that the tension in their house is going to be lifted for a while. It isn’t that they won’t miss their kid…they just won’t miss the tough parts of living with an emerging adult.

The other end of the spectrum is the parent that calls and texts multiple times a day. They offer to, and sometimes do, contact professors to explain why they think their grading is unfair or that their kid needs an extension on an assignment.


These are just a few steps a parent can take for their college student. As I see a growing need for supporting parents when their child is experiencing a mental health problem, I am now offering coaching for parents all over the U.S. If your son or daughter is exhibiting panic attacks, generalized anxiety, or you suspect OCD, consider connecting them with me. Online therapy has proven to be extremely effective with college students. And if they aren’t interested, you can meet with me. (Parent sessions can take place no matter where you are located in the U.S. If I am meeting with your child, they should be located in Tennessee where I am licensed.)

Jody Dianna, LCSW, is a Tennessee therapist specializing in young adults. She is a recovering perfectionist and a Dog Person that is currently coexisting well with 2 cats.