Perfectionism
You take pride in your high expectations of yourself. Sometimes you freeze for fear of making the wrong decision. And other people are constantly disappointing you.
If you are a nerd, a list maker, a fixer, a hard worker, a worrier, a planner, an overreactor, or an anticipate all problems in advance type – looking for some relief from overwhelm, you will be at home with me. Together we can explore, observe, validate, and channel your energy into things that actually help stop those wheels that keep spinning in your head.
My clients feel stress like everyone else, but they also feel the burden of expectations. They will sacrifice their time and even their health to keep up the pace they think they need. They will ignore the sweaty palms and go without sleep to study, work, or not let anyone down. They are jumpy and they operate as though something bad could happen at any minute.
Your 20s can be difficult. There are professors and bosses to please, parents to keep happy, dating horror stories, roommate arguments, and more. Whether you need to silence the critical voice in your head or set better boundaries around your time, therapy can help.
Anxiety can sometimes be difficult to manage. Worrying takes up a lot of time. Panic attacks are often a sign that your anxiety has gone unchecked for too long. With the right kind of attention, anxiety and panic don’t have to rule your life. Working with me can get your confidence up and your coping skills on target.
Jody is an anxiety management expert who has been helping clients for two decades. She knows the ins and outs of managing the stress of being a young adult.
You take pride in your high expectations of yourself. Sometimes you freeze for fear of making the wrong decision. And other people are constantly disappointing you.
Your confidence could be better. Sometimes you really don’t like yourself. Your body image needs work and you spend a lot of time wishing you were different.
Sure, you have done a lot of work to get where you are. But the feeling that you don’t belong never goes away. You worry someone will realize that you aren’t good enough.
When stress piles up you assume there is something wrong with you. Or if you knew what you were doing then your life wouldn’t feel so bad.
You don’t want anyone to ever be upset as a result of something you have said or done. Keeping everyone else happy is your priority.
Sometimes one small thing will happen but you have a knack for jumping to the extreme. You spend lots of time thinking of the worst possible outcomes.
It isn’t that your problems aren’t unique, it’s that anxiety works similarly across the spectrum of human brains. So that means all my work with other anxious people over the years will be applicable to you! Our work can save you time. I know right where to jump in and start with interventions. You have probably assumed that if a few things would just fall into place, everything would be fine. You wouldn’t need to change anything!
Luckily, the vibe of our session will be learning and forward motion. We won’t take your whole life apart and put it together differently. You won’t be unrecognizable when we are done. You will be your best self, with more capacity and bandwidth and an ability to shake off unexpected stress, changes, and problems quickly and easily.
If you have a shelf of self-help books that haven’t worked, it’s time to talk. No more obsessing over the Enneagram trying to figure yourself out. No more trying all the same old things hoping this time it will work. No more wasted hours being afraid that people will find out you aren’t the same person you portray on the internet. No more exhaustion trying to be everything to everyone. Contact me and let’s get to work.
Check out Jody’s contribution to the conversation on Bustle about the difference in how Millennials and Gen Z manage mental health.
Check out what Jody and other professionals suggest for coping with this common problem.
Based on her past experience with on-campus counseling services, Jody describes her observations of trends in the coping skills of intelligent young adults.